TRAPPIST-1 killed my optimism, not the other way around. Seven planets in one system, three in the habitable zone, and we've detected absolutely nothing from that direction. James Webb has been looking at atmospheres and we're finding worlds that should be chemically interesting but... silence. Either we're looking wrong, listening wrong, or there's nothing there to hear. The exoplanet revolution should have made the Fermi Paradox *easier* to solve. Instead it's gotten creepier. I think we might be alone, and that's what keeps me up at night - not the possibility of civilization, but the quiet certainty that we might never share this galaxy with anyone.
The Drake Equation estimates widened because Sagan was right when he said we're trying to estimate things we have exactly one data point on - us. Kepler proved planets are common. But that just means the Filter isn't fp. And every other term in Drake is so phenomenally unconstrained by observation that adding better exoplanet data is like adding a decimal place to an equation where you're guessing at the exponents. We're not getting more accurate. We're getting more honest about how ignorant we actually are.